Destructive Trait Intro
(Thread begun by RandyP)
Everybody has their traits and everybody has their issues. At certain times the relevant life situations surrounding each of us boils over into events and crisis demanding immediate advice and attention. There should be no shame or blame found in that that.
- Upon any thorough examination though it should be asked
- "what has brought me to this?"
- "what has made this occurrence manifest in this way?"
- "what needs to be done by me to steer my way through?"
Maybe in your present situation the immediate problem isn't even you. Maybe you are the one being affected by the traits and or issues of someone else, most typically someone dear to you. You seem to be the one on trial here however. These events and situations can boil over in a myriad of ways. So what can be done?
The most common approach is the self help method. The bookstore shelves are lined from floor to ceiling with resources. Most self help efforts stall out in the second chapter; it is too hard of work, there is no further investment. New titles roll out onto the shelves every year and none seem to stick with good reason.
The better approach would be the advice and counsel of a trusted and informed third party. The trouble is that few of us have taken the prerequisite time needed to develop the skills and establish the connections to these wise relationships and resources with a counselor or Pastor before times of crisis, resorting instead to the more common types of superficial advice that tends to perpetuate problems rather than solve them.
Some traits or issues boil over further to the point where families and or society have to take legal or civil action. Willing family and community contacts and resources are demolished and utterly obliterated. The person and the victim alike are excommunicated into that no mans land of tragic consequence.
So where would one more wisely proceed?
The Biblical Answer
How would the Bible have us approach these issues and traits? The answer depends on if you are looking for the quick fix or not.
The quick fix is that maybe you cherry pick a verse or two, add it to what you you are already trying to do to make something more of it. Maybe the bible itself is too uncomfortable so you borrow on the relationship of your Pastor with the Lord that He might interceede and proxy some type of answer for you.
The long answer is that you take it upon yourself (perhaps with the help of a Pastor) to get to the bottom of your life issues, the very core of your heart's desires, and you find that long lost one on one relationship with God for yourself.
One might say "well I'm not dealing with a God issue here, I'm dealing with an anger issue" or "...a financial issue" or "...a (you fill in the blank) issue". It is this failure to connect the two issues that effects critical seekers the most, they have no other investment in it other than their own selves.
In the "Battling Destructive Traits" and "Personal Issue Management" threads to follow, I hope to illustrate the centrality of our relationship to God as the root cause of any and all traits and issues that you might be facing today. Whether the issue you face is directly addressed by name or not, I think that you will find a common answer and a common biblical application that will help you to you successful pathway out of your present situation and into the loving and caring arms of a great and mighty Father God. Your honest investment into searching and seeking and not shying away from this relationship is all that will be needed to start.
Preliminary Foundational Readings:
pcarr:FoundationsOfTheLikePreciousFaith - unlike any other common faith the like precious faith that the Apostle Peter outlines is built from several key elements defining who is doing what and where the resources are coming from....
- Battling Destructive Traits:
Personal Issue Management:
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